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Behind Every Cloud is a Kindred Spirit (BECKS)I lost my grandfather when I was 17. I had a VERY difficult time getting over it. How could I still communicate with him? I loved him so much I didn't think I could live without him. I read everything I could get my hands on to do with the "afterlife" and that started it all...the love of Ghost Hunting and the Paranormal. I have been researching the paranormal for over 30 years!! It is my way of staying in touch with my grandfather. Being a Ghost Hunter is not always as exciting as it seems on TV. Many nights I have sat in the dark and not a thing happened. BUT it is those times you DO get that one voice, that one unexplainable picture or have an experience that sends chills down your back that makes it sooo worth it all!!! My purpose of this blog is not to make people believe in ghosts but maybe to open their minds just a little bit... I LOVE this crazy thing called Ghost Hunting. It is as much a part of me as breathing. I am just a girl that refuses to accept we can't still contact our loved ones after they die. My grandfather won't let me.

QUESTIONS YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT GHOSTS BUT DIDN'T WANT TO ASK...

I thought this would be a fun place for you to ask questions about ghosts but never asked.... because you thought they were to crazy..... or because you thought no one else wondered about the same thing....WRONG!!!  Whether it's about something scary or strange or something like "Do ghost watch you shower"  I've heard them all.  And EVERY question you may have..... let me say, more likely than not, I have ALREADY been asked!!!  So, I am hoping for this page to be a place that you can ASK questions and I will do my best to answer them for you.  So, lets make this fun. (or serious if need be).  I am hoping to post new questions a couple of times a month.  Come on..... lets make this a fun page....I can't do it alone....:)


DO THE DEAD REST?

I don't know about power napping, but I do believe that at least some of them need to rest when they first go to the Other Side.  I think, that when we die we are pretty worn out-not just physically but mentally, emotionally, often spiritually. So a little "down time" is expected I think.

DO THE LIVING HAVE CERTAIN ILLNESSES TO TEACH US CERTAIN LESSONS?

I do think people that have had certain illnesses have already "agreed" with God to have this illness maybe to help with others see things in a different light, if you will.  I once heard someone say "someone with a very serious illness is one of the bravest people in the world, because they have "volunteered" to be here on earth in that physical condition for helping others.".  And sometimes the lesson is more for, or also for, the individuals surrounding the person who is ill.  Although the ones left behind, it is VERY HARD to understand when someone so kind and gentle and good has such a devastating illness.  A serious illness does not just strike someone randomly.

One thing I want to be very clear about is that an illness is NEVER retribution for anything we did or didn't do!!!  God is a loving God and does not mete out punishments of pain and suffering.  Whatever happens to the soul, the soul has agreed to allow it in order to gain a deeper consciousness unobtainable in any other way.  The soul will not know every detail in advance of what he/she will go through, what turns the experience may take.  There is NO illness on the Other Side, so without experiencing it here they cannot possibly understand how blessed we truly are when we are with God. The soul has made a choice for spiritual growth.

DO YOUR LOVED ONES THAT HAVE PASTED KNOW YOUR CHILDREN THAT WERE BORN AFTER THEY PASSED?

OF COURSE THEY DO!!  I believe that our loved ones know everything about a child and that the child knows them long before WE ever do!!!  I believe that on the Other Side our loves ones even has a say in who gets to come into our lives as our LITTLE BUNDLE JOY.  I have know that my Nan(grandfather) knew long before I did, that I was going to need a little baby girl in my life to help me get over some "rough patches" in my life and only a sweet baby girl could do that.  And because of that I was BLESS with a wonderful baby girl 20 years ago that is my world!!!!  Thank you Nan.

CAN THE DEAD SPEAK TO US IN OUR DREAMS?

You better know it!!!  There are two kinds of messages-dreams and visits.  Both happen when we're sleeping, but a dream is usually convoluted and often has a psychological root.  Generally, a dream needs to be interpreted before we can get any message from it.  A VISIT is very straightforward.  It's usually short and sweet.  We will see our loved ones, and we can "hear" them, we'll hear their actual voice, but the communication is really telepathic.  We won't see their lips moving because they are communicating with their minds.  Our subconscious mind will remember the visit, and the message will be clear.  Unlike a dream, it won't need any interpretation.  Some times after a VISIT you will awaken feeling very content as if you have had one more chance to speak with your loved one. 

DO THE DEAD PLAY TRICKS ON US?

Does a fish like water???? Oh yes..... they can play tricks on us.  If your loved one was a "jokester" while living chances are he/she is still playing jokes on you.  I have had many experiences at home where I would lay something down and turn around and then it gone!  I remember a time that I came home from work, like I always do, and laid keys on my kitchen table.  I go make myself a big glass of SWEET TEA (because here in Texas that what we drink.lol) and turn around to pick up my keys and they were gone!!! Now, am I losing my mind????  Didn't I JUST lay those keys there???? So after searching for 45 mins all the sudden I find them in the BATHTUB!!!!  Are you kidding me!!!  I can't help but think of someone just sitting back, just chillin' laughing their butts off as I crawl around on my hands and knees looking for those keys!!!   So next time you THINK you misplaced something.....think again.......could be that long lost Uncle that always played tricks on you.

DO THE DEAD FEEL BAD IF WE NEVER VISIT THEM AT THE CEMETERY?
No.  Because they are not there.  The cemetery is purely for the living so that we have a place to associate with our loved ones.  They do hear our thoughts there, but they hear our thoughts no matter where we are…….the funny thing is that they are just as likely to be in the car with us as we are driving TO the cemetery.  It really isn’t necessary to sit next to a gravestone to talk to a spirit who has crossed.  Lots of people leave flowers or gifts at the gravesite.  This is meant to provide comfort to the grieving friends and family members and show our love………when mostly likely your loved one who has passed is saying, “Thank you honey, but really save your money”.

DO SOULS WHO HAVE PASTED MISS US AS MUCH AS WE MISS THEM?
How do I put this so that you guys don’t get the wrong idea…..hhhuuummm   I don’t think so, because they don’t have the same HUMAN feelings as we do.  Please don’t take this the wrong way and think that they have forgotten you or the love you had with them is gone….IT’S NOT!!!!!!  Their love lasts through eternity.  THEY are in a place of TOTAL peace and forgiveness therefore; they don’t MISS US like we miss them.  Here’s the thing, they are in paradise…..and want to stay there because THEY get to see US all the time.  Kinda’ like watching us live on the internet 24/7 but better!!!  Sometimes they can use webcam and talk with us and sometimes they just watch us. (ok, I know that was a weird example, but hope you get my point. LOL)  Just let me say…… they can’t wait for us to get to PARADISE and be with THEM again.

DO THE DEAD ATTEND THEIR OWN FURNERALS?
You BET they DO!!!  Wouldn’t you want to see what people said about you after you were gone? LOL  Just kidding.  It’s not to check on who shows up and who doesn’t or to be sure that nice things are being said about them they just want to be around their family.  One of the first things we are told when we cross is WE’LL NEVER BE TAKEN FROM THOSE WE LOVE.  NEVER.  THEY will always have the ability to be with their loved ones, through spirit and their hearts.  Just because it’s a funeral, it doesn’t matter.  They just want to be with their family.  Now, for MY family…….. YOU GUYS BETTER HAVE A GIANT PARTY with the Ghostbusters theme song PLAYING AS LOUD AS IT CAN……..Who you goina’ call????????   Lol Just saying…….

DOES OUR DEPARTED LOVED ONES EVER ARRANGE A LOVE CONNECTION?

Are you kidding? If they are going to be replaced or look forward to future grandbabies……you bet they are going to have a say in it!!!!  I think they try and help us attain love.  They put people in front of you who THEY think would be wonderful for you, but YOU have to make a choice.  You can accept their choice or reject it.  We are all of FREE WILL….like if THEY put a shirt in front of you and said “I LIKE THIS ONE”, they have picked it out and showed it to you but now you have to decide “hhhuummm is this shirt right for me or not?”  I think we live in a society that places a lot of value on the LOOK of the package rather than what’s INSIDE the package and this is where I think our departed loves ones has the UPPER HAND on us because THEY ALREADY KNOW what’s IN the package and that’s why they put certain people in our paths.  So, don’t overlook the PACKAGE just because it doesn’t have a big, red, shiny bow…..:)
 
 Do I think TWO spirits on the other side plat against two unsuspecting souls to meet?  You better believe it!!!!! They get together and say “hey my granddaughter sure needs to meet a nice man like your grandson……and their off………..all of the sudden…….you meet someone in some way you never dreamed of and all of the sudden…………..you have an INSTANT connection with this person.  You are a little confused about the connection you feel because they are so different from what YOU thought you were looking for……..but strange things just keep happening and THIS person just keeps showing up in your life………. Just for the record…………Your loved ones are up in heaven “giving each other a HIGH FIVE and snickering….”!!! 
 
DO GHOST FOLLOW YOU HOME?

Although it doesn't happen very often, yes, ghosts can follow you home.  However, this does not mean that by going on an investigation to a haunted location, a ghost will decide to go home with you at the end of the evening.  Ghosts who do follow people home only do so for a very good reason, not because they suddenly take a liking to someone.

Ghosts are normally attached to a location not a person, so they would have to make a conscious decision to go with you.  I believe this can happen but only IF there is some sort of connection to the person.  So, don't be to concerned with a spirit following you home, more than likely they already have one and want to stay there.


IF PEOPLE DIE FROM A VIOLET DEATH SUCH AS A MURDER, ARE THEY HEARTBROKEN IN HEAVEN OR DO THEY FIND PEACE?

Simple answer, yes they find peace.  They ARE love.  They may have had their lives cut short, but they DO NOT stay bitter or sad about their passing. Again, on the Other Side there aren't the human feelings that we know.  Even though it was not what they may have wanted or expected, in death they are liberated.  In spirit, they are unlimited.  They haven't lost us; they're still with us.  So it's an entirely different perspective.  
DO THE DEAD HAVE SEX ON THE OTHER SIDE?

REALLY??? Man, you've got a one tracked mind! LOL  No.  They are energy forms so they don't have the same needs and desires of the flesh.  They don't make love, they don't eat anything and no, they don't go to the bathroom.  They're in spirit form, not flesh.  I know, I know....your thinking....no food, no sex I'll just stay here!!! LOL   WRONG!!! DO SPIRITS KNOW OUR FUTURE AND WILL I EVER BE IN LOVE AGAIN?  AND IS THAT OK????

Have you ever heard someone say to someone that lost a spouse "I'm glad to see your moving on and have found someone you can love, that is what Janet (deceased spouse) would have wanted"? There has NEVER been a more truer statement made!!!  Our loved ones don't want us to be HERE and morn for them...remember they don't morn for you because they don't have the same feelings as us anymore, only pure peace and happiness is what they have now.

People say there is ONLY ONE TRUE LOVE for everybody.  I don't believe that.  I believe there can be more than ONE TRUE LOVE at different TIMES in your life.   Kinda' like when your a kid and you LOVE chocolate chip cookies....but when you grow up you LOVE brownies.  It's the SAME kind of.... got to have it....want it now.....can't live without it.....LOVE but at two very different times in our lives.

Now, do they help us find love again? And want us to?  ABSOLUTELY!!!!  They put people in front of you who THEY think would be wonderful for you, but You have to see them.  Maybe someone meets someone else through the loss of each of them losing a spouse.  All the sudden, they realize crazy things they have in common.  And you guessed it....they fall madly in love and live happily ever after.  Spirits give you signs all the time, take them, use them and live!

These spirits or ghost are what I call your Guardian Angels.  THEY have special "insights" to what we need and what will make us happy, so YOU BET they want us to LOVE again and they are plotting and scheming to help us every step of the way!  So DO IT!!!  The love you had for your spouse or loved one is NEVER gone or forgotten....just like chocolate chip cookies....you will ALWAYS love them but now you have a NEW love and there is nothing wrong with that! :) 
 


DO THE DEAD HAVE EMOTIONS?

This is probably one of the most commonly asked questions.  They can tell when YOU are feeling happy or sad but for THEM they feel nothing but TOTAL joy and forgiveness.  There is no room for anger, sadness, jealousy or fear on the Other Side.  Just think about a time that something really good...really amazing happened to you.  You didn't think about anything else at the time.... only overwhelming happiness.  Well, spirits feel that way all the time.  There is no judgment on the Other Side on what we are doing here on earth.

ARE OUR PETS WAITING ON THE OTHER SIDE FOR US?

YOU BET!!!!  Pets can sometimes give us the nearest thing to "unconditional love" as us humans can experience.  Animals are gifts from God.  They are living, breathing energy, that I believe, have little "doggie" souls.  They feel all the emotions we do therefore, their souls go to the Other Side and wait for us to come.  Sometimes, they just can't stand it and they come back for a brief. :)

IF YOU ARE A BAD PERSON HERE ON EARTH, WHEN YOU DIE DO YOU BECOME GOOD?

No. If your soul here on earth is bad and you live your life not obeying the rules, lie, cheat, steal, murder someone, you name it, just live your life without any respect to others or yourself for that matter, you don't get a "free pass" on the Other Side.  This is sometimes where you get angry ghosts that through things, try to scare you, break things or just simply make your life hell.  These kinds of spirits are HARD to deal with.  We all answer for our actions here on earth, don't forget it. 

WHY DO GHOSTS ONLY COME OUT AT NIGHT?

They don't.  Ghosts or spirits are all around us all the time.  Not just at night.  Many pictures I have of spirits are taken during the day.  The thing is....during the night, it is much quitter, less people, less activity so for spirits it is easier for them to show themselves AND BE NOTICED at night.  Think of it this way.... if you are trying to get someone's attention..... do you walk into a room of crowed people or do you wait till they are alone?  Which way would they notice you more?  If it is a residual haunting it is doing the same thing over and over at all different times of the day as well.

DO GHOST SEE IN COLOR?

Yes.  They say we have beauty here on earth but on the Other Side the colors are brilliant.  Everything is so clear and the colors are so bright and creates a feeling of contentment and happiness.  AAAWWW  I'm looking forward to that.

ARE THERE SOULS WHO ARE "STUCK" IN LIMBO?

Yes.  Limbo is a state of frustration due to not understanding.  A soul does not understand what is expected of them, what they have done wrong, and cannot go forward, it can't get to the next level in its spiritual development.

To escape limbo the soul must be willing to listen and understand what has happened to it.  That is why when you do an investigation you tell them to "go to the light" and tell them they are dead.  They just may not know because of what happened to them.

CAN THE DEAD TALK TO ONE ANOTHER?

Yes.  Not talk like you and I talk, exactly, language is irrelevant.  They communicate by thought, telepathically.  Thought is universal.  If you think "I am hungry", that thought is the same no matter what language you speak.  Over there, spirits talk in heavenly IM.

DOES EVERYBODY KNOW EVERYBODY ELSE THERE?

Yes.  Keep in mind that on the Other Side we may have grandparents or other ancestors we have never met on earth, who have crossed before we were born, so we knew them only in spirit and now we are meeting them in spirit again.  There are also souls with whom we have no family or friend connection, but even these we will "know" instinctively and would relate to and communicate with as another human being.

Let me put it this way, in heaven there are no "feelings" as we know them here on earth.  They DO feel emotions but only happy and contentment.  There are no human emotions to cause us to "like" or "love" one person more than the other just because we knew them here on earth.

DO GHOST WATCH YOU SHOWER OR SEE YOU WHEN YOUR NAKED???  

Sure they do!  They know when you are in the shower, they know when you are changing clothes and yes they know if you are making love with someone (sorry but I had to say it). 

Now DON'T freak out!!!  The thing you need to remember is they are not in the flesh-They remember the flesh but now it means nothing to them.  They're not judging.  On the other side....there are no feelings of fear, regret, loneliness, pain, jealousy or any other human emotion other than love.  They DO NOT JUDGE us in any way for anything we do.  On the Other Side there is only peace and harmony.  The human feelings we all feel, they don't have those per-say....It's not like they're looking down going...."Whoa!  Has she got a big butt or if I were him, I'd cover that up!"  LOL  The dead are not peeping toms.  It's not entertainment for them because they don't think in human terms.  So don't be embarrassed that they can see what we are doing.  They just think....aawww look at them...aren't they cute and just smile.(ok maybe not just like that but kinda).  They are happy for you.  The dead are not nearly as stuffy about sex as some of us here can be.  And I mean that in the most respectful way.
And yes, before you even ask....they DO see you with all your "little" secrets and sneaky behavior.   They see you sneaking that ice-cream when your suppose to be on a diet, they see you picking your noses when we can't find a Kleenex.  Again, in their eyes, it's just ordinary human behavior.  No judgement.

CAN YOU ASK THE DEAD FOR A MOMENT OF PRIVACY? lIKE "GRANDMA DON'T LOOK"?

I hate to break it to but the answer is NO.  Plain and simple.  They watch over you and guide you so they can't turn their heads even for a minute.

WHY ARE GHOST STUCK HERE BETWEEN THE NOW AND THE OTHER SIDE?

Good question.  Sometimes things happen so suddenly that a spirit may not even know that they are dead.  They don't understand whats happening.  Sometimes, they don't want to leave their loved ones and feel like they have "unfinished business" that they just can't leave yet.  But once the physical body is gone their is no place for them here and the Other Side is were we all want to end up.  They can't move on to their next spiritual development by staying.

To move on they must be willing to listen to and heed the spirit guide-like a guidance counselor.  That is why we as ghost hunters MUST always encourage them to go to the Other Side.  To be "trapped" in the "in between"world is not what God intended for us.  I say it all the time, I believe we all go to heaven it just takes some of us a little longer to get there. :)

HOW DO THE DEAD GET AROUND?

It pretty much instantaneous in terms of travel time.  It's as quick as thought.  In fact, it is thought.  They simply change their thoughts to another place or person, and there they are-right where they want to be.  Wouldn't that be great now!!!  I sleep in.... but in 5 minutes I need to be at work.  BOOM I'm there!!!  No traffic, no finding a parking place......just THERE!!!!! aaahhhh yes!!!


 

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

How much is it to hire you for an investigation in a school basement

Anonymous said...

Hey how much do you guys charge for a investigation in a school basement

Becky said...

We do not charge anything to do an investigation. We do it for research purposes. We would be happy to investigate a school basement for you. If you like you can email me with more details at becksghosthunters@yahoo.com.

Richie Stoots said...

I watch Ghost Hunters and I do have an open mind,but, the one thing I can not understand is this
If an entity is roaming around in your or my house how could it possibly be dressed cloths carry
no live cells so there is no way even if the person can,the cloths of any kind could re-appear with
the spirit or can you explain to me how this would be possible.

Richie Stoots said...

I watch Ghost Hunters and I do have an open mind,but, the one thing I can not understand is this
If an entity is roaming around in your or my house how could it possibly be dressed cloths carry
no live cells so there is no way even if the person can,the cloths of any kind could re-appear with
the spirit or can you explain to me how this would be possible.

rebekah shinoda said...

Should I be afraid if my uncle who died came and watched me sleep I know sounds crazy but I really need some answers

Anonymous said...

I took a picture recently and the picture turned out all discolored, then I took another picture and the color was normal. I have pictures in the same room with orbs in them. is it possible for a spirit to change the coloring on a picture?

Becky said...

Anonymous....the only time I can think of is maybe when an apparition is present. Sometimes they can aluminate a room that may cause some discoloring in a photo. Orbs typically do not. Hope this helps. Thanks for your comment.:)

Becky said...

Rebekah, I'm not sure what you are saying. Did your uncle die and now you feel like he watches over you while you sleep?
Do you feel scared or afraid of being harmed?

Kate said...

I am moving out of my apartment, but still have a few weeks left there. For the last few days, I have been hearing knocking and tapping from the kitchen. It is becoming frightening for me to be on the apartment by myself. The knocks are not caused by pipes or machinery, I have been here long enough to tell the difference. Does anyone have any advice for me? It sometimes gets very loud and intimidating, and I don't know what else to do besides leave and sit in the lobby for an hour or two.

Kate said...

am moving out of my apartment, but still have a few weeks left there. For the last few days, I have been hearing knocking and tapping from the kitchen. It is becoming frightening for me to be on the apartment by myself. The knocks are not caused by pipes or machinery, I have been here long enough to tell the difference. Does anyone have any advice for me? It sometimes gets very load and intimidating and I don't know what else to do but leave and sit in the lobby for an hour or two. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Becky said...

Kate. I would suggest that you take control of your own space. I know it can be hard sometimes, but if you could just be very firm and state out loud....that this was your home and you(spirit) are not welcome here!! Be very firm. Sometimes, spirits just want to be "acknowledged". Another suggestion, would be to sage your apartment. If you decide to do that, I can tell you what to do. Sage is inexpensive and bought fairly easily at specialty stores. Stay in touch and I will be glad to help in anyway I can.

Kyrie Lizik said...

Becky, what are orbs? I have seen two orbs in my apartment. One with the naked eye that came out from behind someone, and one through the video screen of my phone while I was waiting to take a picture. The second one made a loop de loop and exited to right out the bedroom door.

Becky said...

Kyrie,

Orbs are spirits. They are "balls of light" so to speak that you sometimes can see with your own eyes and other times you can pick them up in your photos.

Madison Nunn said...

Hi Becky. I was wondering if my house is haunted? One time I was by myself and I heard whistling and I heard it a second time on another day but my parents were home and the whistles were really loud and clear but I KNOW it wasn't my parents. Another time i was in a room by myself reading a book on my phone while I was underneath the covers and I felt someone press a finger against my head. Thinking it was my mom I said "Hah gotcha mom!" only to find out my mom was in our family room and my dad was in the bedroom. (I was in our tv room.) I asked my mom if she poked my head or if she wanted me and she said no. I knew it wasn't my dad because he was sleeping. I've also had toys fall down a minute or two after I walked past them but it only happened two or three times. Lastly, we have this light and it has a censor so if someone walked near or past it the light would come on. Several times the light came on when no one was even near it. This is all I've experienced for now but I'm not sure if it's just my imagination or if my house is haunted. Other than the things I've mentioned I haven't had anymore things happen but these experiences happened last year, considering it just turned 2017.

Becky said...

Madison, Thank you for writing me about the activity in your house. It certainly sounds like "something" could be going on. Is your house new or older? And does anyone else in the house experience any of the same things you are experiencing? Just a couple of things that will give me a little more insight as to what's going on.

Becky