For those of us who have experienced these things first hand the sleepless nights and the overwhelming fear can be paralyzing!!! Do you suffer in fear without looking for help? Do you stay and hope things will "just get better?" Is it all "just your imagination?" If you are one of these people there are many things you can try before "getting the HEL* out!"
Here's the sad part...many times when someone has had paranormal experiences they DO seek help, and are told they're crazy. Whether one believes in the paranormal or not, if the only recourse people have is to get some kind of help when they believe their house is haunted from paranormal investigators because everyone else thinks their CRAZY - then there's a good justification for paranormal investigators to exist. This is where WE(paranormal investigators) have to step back and listen with an OPEN MIND.....but at the same time try to HELP the homeowner by asking the right questions, doing research on the location and of course conduct an investigation. I take PRIDE in being non-judgmental person....NO MATTER WHAT a person tells me, I have no reason to doubt them until I know otherwise.
Now, to get off the subject a little bit. If you are dealing with paranormal activity please know that there is help out there. BUT there DOES come a time when all you may consider is moving out!!!
Talk to it-
As simple as this sounds, talking to the ghost is generally the easiest way to either have the ghost leave or at least reach some type of compromise to cohabitate. It is also the first thing I recommend to all my clients. Keep in mind that you may have to repeat yourself many times and make the message a little stronger each time. You may start out with something like "I love this house and I know you do too, so could we co-exist together? We can do that if you will stop doing the things you are doing". Then if that doesn't help give this a try. "This is OUR house and you are NOT wanted here! You need to get out now! LEAVE!!!"
One thing I want to bring up is...if the paranormal activity occurring in your home is rather recent, think about any items you may have purchased lately. It could be any items from a thrift store, eBay, garage sale, or an antique store. ANYTHING you bought second hand could have a ghost attached to it. If this is the case...GET RID OF IT!!! I don't mean put it in the basement, I mean get it off your property!
Have Your House Blessed-
If the spirit in your home is persistent, you may want a clergy to come into your home and bless the space. Some people are uncomfortable with this idea but you may need their help so don't be afraid to ask.
Now, if you prefer you can do it yourself. It is important that you pay particular attention to all doors, windows, the kitchen, and the bedrooms. Also pay close attention to any other rooms where paranormal activity may have occurred at one time.
You can burn sage incense or dried sage in every room of the house one at a time and repeat this simple house blessing in every room:
Please bless this house and fill it with only positive energy, happiness, love, and peace. Anyone who enters this space can only be someone who is filled with love and happiness. Any negative energy or beings can no longer reside within these walls, and they are to leave and are forbidden to enter this home ever again. ADDITION(add this if you are trying to get rid of a nice spirit) Only the living can stay here within the walls of this home. If you are a gentle and kind spirit, you must also leave going toward the light. You are not wanted here any longer.
Use Holy Water-
You can take a small, clean container with a lid and respectfully go to a church and fill it with holy water. When you get the holy water, go around your house and put a bit on your finger and make a sign of the cross on every door frame. Say "I bless and clean this space in the name of the Lord" or any other prayer you wish. The trick to completing this task is to REALLY believe with all your heart what you're saying is true.
This has proven to be very effective for ridding homes with uninvited ghosts. First, buy a sage stick and light it, then blow it out so that there is only smoke coming from the stick. Place in a bowl and with a feather or whatever you want to use to direct the smoke...crack open one window in each room and starting from one end of your house and working your way to the other, walk through every room making sure the smoke from the sage gets into all the corners and nooks and crannies. While doing this you can say something like "This smoke is cleaning out any negative energy or spirits. All negative energy or spirits are commanded to leave now through the open window and are never to return.
DO Not Use Salt; Use Rice-
I know, I know, everyone says use sea salt around the outside of your house, but here's the deal....if you ALREADY have a ghost inside your home using salt is the LAST THING you want to do!!! Now, I can't say that I have used this technique but I know people who have and have had great results. See the theory is that spirits or ghosts won't or can't cross a line of sea salt.
So, instead use rice. Sprinkle a line of rice around the outside perimeter of your home, getting the rice as close to the foundation of your home as possible. The theory here is that the rice will LURE the spirit out of your house. THEN....go back outside and do the perimeter with sea salt.
And the last thing I want to say is DON'T SHOW FEAR or have negative feelings. If you had a bad day at work, or your not getting along with your spouse, then THIS IS NOT a good day to sage. You need to be in the right frame of mind meaning being positive...
And if you try everything you can and you have asked for help and nothing seems to work...your best plan may be to move!!! For the safety of you and your family, for the peace of mind of being able to "feel safe" this may be your only option.
Be sure to stay close.... in the next few days I hope to post MY PERSONAL experience of living in a haunted house and a close friend with White Dog Paranormal that just cleansed her apartment because she had a "not so pleasant" experience that scared her to death!