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Behind Every Cloud is a Kindred Spirit (BECKS)I lost my grandfather when I was 17. I had a VERY difficult time getting over it. How could I still communicate with him? I loved him so much I didn't think I could live without him. I read everything I could get my hands on to do with the "afterlife" and that started it all...the love of Ghost Hunting and the Paranormal. I have been researching the paranormal for over 37 years!! It is my way of staying in touch with my grandfather. Being a Ghost Hunter is not always as exciting as it seems on TV. Many nights I have sat in the dark and not a thing happened. BUT it is those times you DO get that one voice, that one explainable picture or have an experience that sends chills down your back that makes it sooo worth it all!!! My purpose of this blog is not to make people believe in ghosts but maybe to open their minds just a little bit... I LOVE this crazy thing called Ghost Hunting. It is as much a part of me as breathing. I am just a girl that refuses to accept we can't still contact our loved ones after they die. My grandfather won't let me.


Getting rid of a ghost

So one of the questions I get ask a lot is "How do you get rid of ghost"? And here's the answer....I DON'T! I am just your everyday girl, I don't hear voices, see ghosts, or have any special "feelings" of who's present. But I CAN help.

Let me say, if you are living with a ghost...don't be afraid. There is nothing to fear but fear itself(well, in most cases). As ghost hunters, part of our job is to make people feel comfortable and help them understand what is going on in their home or where ever the "visitor" is.

If you know a minister, ask him or her to come to the house and pray for the deceased person. Don't be afraid, this does not mean that you have an evil spirit in your home, it is simply to try and help the spirit go ahead and "across over". It is not a "exorcism" so don't get confused on why the minister is there. This may seem a bit extreme, but it's just to give the family some comfort if they, themselves do not want to deal with it.

If they are welling, suggest that the family simply ask the spirit to leave. Many times this well work. Talk outloud and tell the spirit you would like them to leave for whatever reason...this is your home now and no longer theirs, you are frightened, not welling to share the home... etc.

If this doesn't work you may want to contact a medium. The difference between ghost hunters and a person who gets rid of ghosts is that this person uses no equipment in what they do. They operate only with their senses and their minds. Remember though, these persons cannot get rid of residual hauntings. The only way this can happen is for the haunting to just wear itself out, or you could completely dismantle the house, which is something that most home owners would not want to do.

If you do contact a medium, do your research first! Ask someone you know if they can suggest someone they have used or heard of and read what you can about that person first. After all, you are inviting them into your home and sometimes revealing some very personal experiences.

If all else fells...MOVE....NO!!!! You know I am just kidding about that. I will be happy to help in anyway I can, so just ask.

Hope this helps a little bit for anyone dealing with this sometimes, stressful situation.


Anonymous said...

We live in a very old home, rumor is the home was some type of "brothel" and there were more than one person murdered in one of the rooms.during that time. I have personally witnessed seeing a woman (shadowy figure), but I could see this woman had long hair and had on white. She disappeared into a bedroom, as if she went right through the wall. I've also been in the kitchen, and when I walked out I saw a male figure, he had on a large hat and long coat, seeming to be dressed from years ago..also disappearing to another area. I've never been scared, more curious than anything. My latest happening as I started down the stairway, I felt I was pushed from behind. I could feel what appeared to be a hand and fingers push me down. I fell to the bottom of the stairs. There have been many other things, but these I have witnessed personally. I know I'm not supposed to be scared, but what am I to do??

Becky said...

Thank you for writing and I hope I can help you with your situation. I need a little more information please. How long have you lived in the house and did you start having experiences right away?
Also, are you doing any remodeling? Moving things around?
Let me give you a little back ground history about ghost first. Most haunting have “unfinished business” here on the Earth’s plane. Let’s say they have to finish what they started. Their purpose in life, so to speak. Please know that most of the time ghost WILL NOT harm you even though it is scary at times.
You may have a residual haunting in your home. What this means is that you are basically seeing a “moment in time” played over and over. A residual haunting has no intelligence and most of the time, you can’t communicate with it. If the “lady of the house” went in to the kitchen everyday for the past 20 years to cook, you may see her going to the kitchen because that is what she knows.
Sometimes, ghosts just want to get your attention and let you know they are still there. They might show themselves to you, move things, hide things, do lots of different things just to get your attention.
Sometimes, they have an attachment to something. Let’s say the house you live in. Maybe they enjoyed being there, because it was fun (And I understand it was a brothel, so fun could mean a lot of different things) had great food, visited with friends… so many reasons there could be an attachment. That is why I was asking about remodeling. Sometimes, the entity likes things just the way they were. So if you are changing things up this might not set well with your “house guest”.
You can do this “nicely” you do not have to be mean about it. But let the entity know your intention.
Ok. Here is my suggestion and hopefully it will help. You have to take OWNERSHIP of YOUR home! Say out loud that THIS IS MY HOME, I LIVE HERE NOW AND I WANT YOU TO GO AWAY. Tell them “they are frightening you and you want them to leave”. If you feel that there are no harmful entities, then you may want to say something like “I love my home and are willing to share it with them, but they have to stop doing the things you don’t like. You are Not going anywhere so they are just going to have to deal with it.”
I know it sounds a little silly, but you have to try this! Speaking out loud to perform magical rituals or in this case, get rid of ghosts (and by no means am I saying THIS IS MAGICAL or A RITUAL) has been based on hundreds of years of beliefs and experiences based on speech.
Really, quick and I apologize this is so long, I just want to give you as much information as I can, but as for you being “pushed” down the stairs. Maybe because of the previous experiences you felt that “this to” must have been a ghost. And let me be clear, in no way am I saying I don’t believe you, I am merely making suggestions from the information I have. If you continue to physical experiences please let me know.
I want to say one last thing, I know it is hard, because I, myself have had experiences like this and it can be a little scary or a LOT scary at times, but once I told the ghost that I was staying and not going anywhere things STOPPED happening immediately. So, try not to be scared and please stay in touch and I will be thinking about you.