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Behind Every Cloud is a Kindred Spirit (BECKS)I lost my grandfather when I was 17. I had a VERY difficult time getting over it. How could I still communicate with him? I loved him so much I didn't think I could live without him. I read everything I could get my hands on to do with the "afterlife" and that started it all...the love of Ghost Hunting and the Paranormal. I have been researching the paranormal for over 37 years!! It is my way of staying in touch with my grandfather. Being a Ghost Hunter is not always as exciting as it seems on TV. Many nights I have sat in the dark and not a thing happened. BUT it is those times you DO get that one voice, that one explainable picture or have an experience that sends chills down your back that makes it sooo worth it all!!! My purpose of this blog is not to make people believe in ghosts but maybe to open their minds just a little bit... I LOVE this crazy thing called Ghost Hunting. It is as much a part of me as breathing. I am just a girl that refuses to accept we can't still contact our loved ones after they die. My grandfather won't let me.



As humans, we have this GREAT power called "Love".  Love gives us the ability to open our hearts and love unconditionally and TO BE loved unconditionally.  The great thing about love is, we can love many different things.  We LOVE ice cream, we LOVE sports, and maybe one of our GREATEST loves, beside the love we have for family and friends.... is our pets!!!  As humans, we grow incredibly attached to our animal friends.  When they are alive we cherish them and consider them a member of the family in every aspect of the word "family".  When they die, so often we are consumed in grief that we feel like we might NEVER recover.  Still, we do; and life goes on.

Sometimes, though, there is an occasional visit from our departed friends.  The nudge of a cold noise, the click-click of their nails on a hardwood floor, the jingle of their tags in the night, the squeak of their favorite toy.  The deep bond between animals and humans, make no mistake is REAL and TRUE.

Now, according to your belief, animals may or may not have a soul.  For me, I believe anything that can feel love, pain and sadness must have a soul.  Just like us, pets have a soul and when the physical body wears out our souls go to heaven. Now, I know you are asking yourself, how can SHE(meaning me.lol) believe you go to heaven and still believe in ghosts?  Well, I do!  I just think sometimes it takes some of us a little longer to get there. :) 

Again, just like a spirit or ghost, our pets may not want to leave their loved ones, and we all know how loyal pets can be.  And again, I believe pets have a GREAT six sense....so when you are sad they know it, when you are happy they know it and when you need a hug and a kiss....no problem......up in the lap they go with a big lick on the face!!!

Our pets are still loyal even in the afterlife.  If everyday you feed your pet at 8:00am and 5:00pm then that is what your pet knows.  So, when they die they may continue to come back at 8:00 and 5:00 for breakfast and dinner.  And when they know you are grieving or sad they do what they do best....try and make you feel better by grabbing a toy, jumping in your lap or on the couch to snuggle.  Let's just say "they have unfinished business" the phrase that is soooo often used when describing a departed soul.

I could talk for hours on the subject of pets, but let me offer you these words of encouragement.....if you have lost a beloved pet, and you feel that you hear them or feel them or even see them....know that the LOVE and Loyalty that they had for you always remains with them.  Take ANY signs to heart and know they are still with you making you smile and feel LOVED.

This may be a little off the subject but I want to say it anyway...I lost a beloved pet named Shasta years ago.  At the time, I cried until my eyes ached and there wasn't another tear left in me.  I grieved like I didn't know was possible.  An with the pain that deep, all I could think about was "I will never love another dog LIKE I loved Shasta."  And I couldn't even imagine replacing her.  As any animal lover knows, you can't replace a beloved lost pet.  But let me tell you what you CAN do.....you can ease the pain, by taking the love you had for your beloved pet and share it with another little soul that needs love and wants to give love.  I know it is one of the HARDEST things to cope with, but when you DON'T replace your pet with another....what you notice is the SILENCE and LONELINESS.  You sit in the house and notice that their NOT in your lap, you notice that your house is NOT full of dog toys all over the floor, and you notice no one is there to great you when you open your eyes in the mornings or when you get home from work.  That feeds the pain you feel.

 I know this is just MY OPINION and MY OPINION ALONE....but I feel, from experience that the sooner your replace the LONELINESS with a distraction of another little furry friend jumping in your lap, playing with toys, making a mess and chewing up your favorite shoes and most of all is being LOVED and giving LOVE the sooner your heart will start to heal.  PLEASE don't mistake what I am saying....I am NOT saying you will ever love another pet the way you did when you lost your previous one but I AM saying....you CAN LOVE another in another unique and special way.

Sorry, obviously I got a little "preachy" on the subject but it is because I am very passionate about animals and our bond with them.

****Since this post in 2013 I have lost my little Holly to the great Doggie Heaven in the sky.  I also have a new little addition to my family....Tucker.  :)


My Holly!!
Mom, bed time...

My Tanner

I love messing up the pillows on
my Mom's bed right after she makes
it.  Man!  It's hard work!!!

The loves of my life!!!


Anonymous said...

Very well said...

Becky said...

Thank you for that. :)

Anonymous said...

Becky, I am right with you. I lost my beloved Shiba Inu, Dolce - animal soulmate, family and friend, Jan 2012. The pain and loss brought me to me knees for months on end. My life is very full and despite friends, family and being the co-owner of a very busy Real Estate Brokerage, I fell to pieces. A few months later, with the encouragement and help of everyone who cared about me and Dolce, I made room in my heart for Cara Felica(pronounced cadda)which means "Beloved and Happy" in Italian, who was rescued from a horrible puppy mill. By the way, Cara had 6 attempted rescues over a period of 2 years, until me. I truly believe that Dolce, sent her to me. No dog will ever replace my Dolce, but my heart is more than big enough to give another little furry soul, a fun, safe and well loved place to live.

Michele said...

By the way Becky, the above comment, was from Michele in Chicago. See you in Decatur in June!

Becky said...

Hi Michele. I LOVE to hear stories about rescued pets!!! It takes a special person to open their hearts and adopt from a shelter or to rescue an abandon pet. Thank you for that.

Yes. I am looking forward to Chicago! Hopefully we will get as much great stuff at the Lincoln this year we did last year at the Avon Theater.

Thanks for your comments. I loved them and thanks again for sharing your story of your beloved Shiba Inu.