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Behind Every Cloud is a Kindred Spirit (BECKS)I lost my grandfather when I was 17. I had a VERY difficult time getting over it. How could I still communicate with him? I loved him so much I didn't think I could live without him. I read everything I could get my hands on to do with the "afterlife" and that started it all...the love of Ghost Hunting and the Paranormal. I have been researching the paranormal for over 37 years!! It is my way of staying in touch with my grandfather. Being a Ghost Hunter is not always as exciting as it seems on TV. Many nights I have sat in the dark and not a thing happened. BUT it is those times you DO get that one voice, that one explainable picture or have an experience that sends chills down your back that makes it sooo worth it all!!! My purpose of this blog is not to make people believe in ghosts but maybe to open their minds just a little bit... I LOVE this crazy thing called Ghost Hunting. It is as much a part of me as breathing. I am just a girl that refuses to accept we can't still contact our loved ones after they die. My grandfather won't let me.



Nice moving animation of a very haunted house with lots of ghosts and goblins but just one skeleton playing with it's own skull

So, now you have realized that you are NOT ALONE in your house!  What next?  How do you remove an "unwanted guest"? Just ask them to leave.....  Ok.  Maybe it's not THAT easy but sometimes it can be done without a lot of involvement from others or a lot of "hoop la"....so to speak.

By far, the simplest method of removing a spirit from a home involves talking to it.  YES...you have to TALK to it.  When you are dealing with a human ghost or ghosts, this is the first route you should take.  It's surprising how many people will endure a haunting without ever attempting to reach out and communicate with the spirit that is haunting them.  Think about it.....if you walk into a room, do want people to acknowledge you or completely ignore you???  So many times....that all it is...human spirits just are simply trying to get your attention.  And if they can't get it from you....they will try and get it from others.  What I mean by that is, if you aren't going to talk with them, then they will attempt to get the attention of someone that will....other family members, friends anyone staying in the location.

Why are they trying to get your attention???  I don't know...you will have to ask them. LOL Awww I'm just kidding with you.  One of the most common reasons is....they are trying to get a message out....maybe to you....maybe to someone else.  Others are simply lonely, and want nothing more than to be recognized by the people living in the house. Ghosts that are lonely and want acknowledgment tend to act out, especially if they feel someone in the house should be able to hear them, but who nevertheless ignores them.  Lets go back to our "walking into a room" scenario for a minute.  You walk into a room and you see someone you want to talk to.  So, you jump up and down and wave your hands over your head trying to get there attention...but yet....they don't respond to you in any way.  So what now?  So....you get LOUDER....cause more commotion, jump higher and scream "hey I'm over here!"  "Look at me, would ya"?  Ok...maybe you wouldn't do that but I would. LOL
Anyway, I think you get the point.

Sometimes spirits will try to communicate with one person in the home whom they feel will be able to hear them.  So they are not tied to the home, they are attracted to a particular person.  And yes, if that person moves...guess what...your ghost may just follow you because they feel that you in someway can communicate with them.  Spirits who feel that you have the ability(and you may not even realize you have it)to communicate with them often will act out just like little children until they DO get your attention even if you are yelling at them to stop!

If you are not psychic, how do you talk to a ghost?  You don't have to be a psychic to talk with spirits.  You just have to be willing...The simplest way to communicate with a ghost is to speak to them just like they were any living person.  If there is a place in your home where the ghost regularly makes its presence known, go to that place and address the spirit.  You may feel a little silly at first, since you are essentially talking to thin air.  Get over that and talk to them in a genuine and forthright manner.  You got this!

Try to set up lines of communication.  When you ask a spirit to produce itself physically understand you are asking lot.  This takes a great deal of energy.  Ask for knocking sounds or other signs but sure you understand whatever you are asking them to do may take more effort than you think.

Finally, you should explain to the spirit that it has been scaring people and you have to "draw some lines in the sand".  Many spirits are simply seeking to connect with the living and have no intention of frightening or harming the resident of the home.  Laying down a few ground rules about where it can and cannot go in the house and how it should or should not behave can solve most problems.  It's kinda like...if you don't tell me, I don't know I'm doing anything wrong.  The ghost may think "oh heck....she didn't like that when I slammed the closet door.  Guess I won't do that again!" LOL

You should always approach the spirit peacefully and politely at first.  Give it the option to comply and if the spirit continues to act out and the unwanted activities do not stop, then you may have to go to the next step.

Following these steps may help in your FIRST contact with the ghost.

1.  Acknowledge the presence of the spirit and let it know you are open to communication.
2.  Don't yell and don't threaten the spirit-at least not yet.
3.  Reassure the spirit it is not being ignored but you are having trouble understanding its attempts at  
4.  Let the spirit know that you need clearer communication such as knocking, rapping or turning the lights on and off.
5.  Clearly and gently explain the family's response to its activities.
6.  State boundaries and ask that the spirit respect them.
7.  Extend the desire to help, but explain that the spirit must clearly communicate its needs.
8.  Set ground rules for interaction and explain the consequences of breaking these rules.
9.  Do not make idle threats.  Be willing to enforce the consequences if the spirit breaks the rules.

The most important part about the first contact is acknowledging the spirit is a real and present being and you are not trying to ignore it, you are just trying to understand what it is the spirit wants.

I can tell you from a personal experience, this can and does work!!!  Again, this is not all the time, but it is a good place to start.  Good luck.

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