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Behind Every Cloud is a Kindred Spirit (BECKS)I lost my grandfather when I was 17. I had a VERY difficult time getting over it. How could I still communicate with him? I loved him so much I didn't think I could live without him. I read everything I could get my hands on to do with the "afterlife" and that started it all...the love of Ghost Hunting and the Paranormal. I have been researching the paranormal for over 37 years!! It is my way of staying in touch with my grandfather. Being a Ghost Hunter is not always as exciting as it seems on TV. Many nights I have sat in the dark and not a thing happened. BUT it is those times you DO get that one voice, that one explainable picture or have an experience that sends chills down your back that makes it sooo worth it all!!! My purpose of this blog is not to make people believe in ghosts but maybe to open their minds just a little bit... I LOVE this crazy thing called Ghost Hunting. It is as much a part of me as breathing. I am just a girl that refuses to accept we can't still contact our loved ones after they die. My grandfather won't let me.



At a time when ghostly encounters are sadly and most often depicted as, and defined by people covered in electronic gadgets and shouting out the names of the deceased into moldy basements and dark attics, is that our "connection" to the other side?  Does that mean we have a "personal connection"?

Communicating with the spirits of the dead is a timeless fascination, and today is no exception.  Our society is inundated with paranormal media, leaving many to wonder how much of what we see and hear is real. If someone claims to have "all the answers"...beware...none of us...and I do mean NONE OF US have ALL the answers.  Now with that said, I DO believe that some...not all of us...have had TRULY personal connections with someone that has passed away....be it a loved one, friend, teacher, spouse or someone that has just touched our life in a very special way.

So lets talk about that.  Do I feel I have a "personal connection" with MY Nan?(Grandfather) You BETTER believe that I DO!!!!!  And so do MANY of you!!!  A "personal connection" with someone that has passed away can be something like.......lets say  a "feeling" a moment that "beyond a shadow doubt" that you feel or sense that person is with you in that exact moment.  You suddenly smile for know reason, you shed a tear just because you looked out your window and saw a blue bird on your mothers bird feeder......and you remember very vividly her joy as she would watch the birds out her window.

I am going to share a VERY PERSONAL experience of someone very dear to me and that I love so much and are so honored that he would allow me to write about HIS "personal connection".  This story is about my boyfriend Deak and his "personal connection" to his wife who he lost in 2008 to cancer.  She left behind two small boys, one 9-Grant and one was 12-Chase and one devastated husband who she had been with for 26 wonderful years.  Let me also state that writing this is no easy task but I want you, my readers, to understand that you CAN and DO have "personal connections" to your loved ones.....there is no need for you to feel like you have to have other people believe you in a world where "doubt" seems to come all to easy when you are talking about the paranormal.

As stated, Deak and Susan had been married for many years.  They enjoyed an exceptionally good relationship, they respected each other, loved each other and were the best of friends. They both loved to travel and many times took the boys on memorable vacations. Their life consisted of TWO VERY IMPORTANT things......their boys, Grant(9) and Chase(12) and HOCKEY..........but not just any hockey team......they lived and breathed CHICAGO BLACKHAWKS Hockey!!!!  Deak is originally from Chicago and Susan from Minnesota where they both developed a very passionate love for the sport.

Deak and Susan had a small but comfortable home when Deak began to climb the "corporate ladder".  One day Susan noticed that she had a lump on her inner thigh that became painful and sore.  Deciding to go to the doctor and have it checked out a biopsy was performed and the news unfortunately wasn't good.......completely blindsided.........she had cancer. After many doctors visits and several years of surgery's  Susan was diagnosed CANCER FREE!!!! They couldn't have been happier!!!!  They decided to pursue a bigger house and better school system for their sons.  So they bought a beautiful new home and moved in on Deak's birthday in July, 2007.  Things seem to be going just the way they planned.  Susan was a stay at home mom and devoted her time to taking the boys to and from Hockey practice and making a loving home for Deak.  Deak continued to work hard and became a successful VP of a Fortune 500 company.

Enjoying her new life in their dream home, Susan was soon told that the cancer had returned. Being of strong will.....Susan never lost faith that she would "beat the cancer" and a couple of times they thought she had. But, the cancer kept coming back..... and each time with more of a vengeance than the time before.  The cancer would soon take it's toll on Susan's body turning this beautiful, young woman into a weak and frail soul that soon became bed ridden.  But this NEVER affected Susan's need to still try and be a loving Mom and Wife to Deak and the boys....and Deak would not falter.....not allowing anyone BUT him to care for his love....he worked during the day....and the minute he arrived home after a long days work....he would stay up all night giving Susan her medication, her shots and care for her in everyway possible.  After several months of Chemo and sleepless nights of administering pain medication....... Deak and Susan lost their battle......leaving Deak alone with two small boys who would be growing up without a Mother to raise on his own.

Deak and the boys turned to traveling  and music as a way of coping with the loss of Susan following the group U2 around the country and traveling to the Blackhawks games.  Now, here is where the "personal connection" comes in IN A BIG WAY!!!  It was 2010 and the Blackhawks won the Stanley Cup after forty-nine years!!!  Deak and the boys were on CLOUD NINE!!!! Tradition is that the first game AFTER the season ends, they (the Blackhawks) celebrate by hanging the Championship banner in the stadium.  Deak and the boys were sitting in their living room of the house they had bought with the thought that this would be a place Susan and them would be for a long, long time enjoying many fond memories.  The Blackhawks celebration ceremony came on and the song WITH OR WITHOUT YOU by U2 began to play.  This was a SPECIAL day for more than one reason.........for more than the Blackhawks winning the Stanley Cup............. it was Deak and Susan's wedding anniversary!!!!  The song is very moving if you listen to the words.......it's about going on WITH OR WITHOUT someone.   Deak and the boys were shocked and became very emotional as the song began to play..........for them, hearing WITH OR WITHOUT YOU during the Blackhawks celebration, they felt her presence.  They KNEW this was no coincidence, as this was her way of letting them know she is still a part of their lives.

So you tell me...............was this a "personal connection" from the other side???? Blackhawks win the Cup???? The U2 Song??? And on their wedding anniversary???

Now, I know "personal connections" are different for everyone.  But make no mistake about it......Do we have personal connections to our loved ones that have passed????  The simple answer is "YES"........ just ask Deak and the boys.

                                                  IN MEMORY OF SUSAN JEAN DEACON

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