CAN OUR LOVED ONES REALLY SEND US MESSAGES?

Dedicated in memory of

Sean Lucero

July 25, 1988-February 15, 2016

Can our loved ones really send us messages from above?  Man, wouldn't that be great if they could?  Guess what?  They can and DO!  When we lose a loved one, our hearts break and sometimes we feel we can't go on without one LAST word, touch, kiss or hug.  We just need one more minute with them! 

I want to share a VERY PERSONAL story with you.  I work with this very nice gentleman that lost his son about 4 years ago.  He is still struggling with the loss and we talk about it every now and then.  He came in my office the other day and ask if we could talk.  I said of course.  He came in and sat down in one of the chairs that sit in front of my desk and almost in a hesitant way asked could he ask me a question.  

This gentleman's name is Ron Lucero.  I have known Ron for years and he knows that I am very into signs, paranormal, spirits and that stuff so for him to act a "little shy" about asking me anything was a little weird. Ron says, "do you think Sean could send me signs that he is still around?"  I looked at him and said, "of course he can!"  He said, "oh do you think God would let him?"  This question hit me like a ton of bricks.  My heart physically hurt.  Did this man think that because his son was in heaven that he could never see or hear from again?  My heart was breaking and I was thinking...how many other people must think this way?  That their loved ones can't give us a message or sign because they are in heaven?  

Ron continued to tell me that over the Christmas holiday's he was at home with his wife and was feeling very depressed about Sean and was struggling to shake this bad feeling.  He said it was just one of THOSE BAD DAYS that we have all experienced when we lose someone close to us.  He said his wife was asking if he was ok. He said yes just a little sad but the longer he sat there the sadder he was getting.  Then all of the sudden a music box sitting on the mantel close to Sean's picture just goes off by itself!!!  It just starts playing music.  He said he looked at his wife and was like what the heck and she looked just as surprised as he was!  Neither of them had touched it all day....it just started to play all by itself!!!  Was this Sean?  Simple answer.  In my opinion, yes.  Without a doubt.

Two things about this story, says to me Sean was trying to send his Dad a message from above.  First, the minute his Dad heard the music going off his first thought was how did that happen and was it Sean? So what does this do?  It makes Ron STOP thinking about the loss and the sad thoughts and focuses on it might be Sean trying to give him a message.  What's the message?  The music symbolizes...something happy.  Something SPECIAL.  It is a distraction from the sadness.  Is that a coincidence?  Nope.  I don't think so.  Second thing, it makes Ron think about Sean in a different way.  That he is near, that he is still with him in spirit and trying to let him know that.  Now, Ron's heart is a little less heavy thinking about Sean in a positive way.

So, back to the question Ron asked.  "Does God let our loved ones give us signs?"  Ok.  I want people to understand what I'm about to say.  God is a loving God.  When you die and go to heaven PLEASE don't think that...…. that's it.  Your loved one's are gone.  If you are struggling or maybe you just need some guidance... of course, God will let your loved ones come for a "visitation".  He actually allows them to be with us always.  He would never want you to surfer and neither would your loved ones.

Here's the thing about signs.  I could write for days about ALL the signs we get from above but for this, I'll keep it short.  Sometimes we get signs from above when we don't even realize we need one but when you ask for a sign.....and get it...……..don't blow it off!  Don't dismiss it as a coincidence.  They are HERE for us and doing everything they can to let us know that.  Signs are given to validate they are still with us.  Whether it's a penny on the ground, a feather in an unusual place, something misplaced that shows up somewhere it shouldn't be....whatever the case may be...accept it.....be grateful and say "Thank you."

One more thing, ASK for signs!!!  If you remember nothing of this story.....remember to ASK for signs.  Make it something that you normally wouldn't see.  For example......Ask to see a purple pig.  You know that isn't something you see everyday SO when you DO see it....you'll know that it is TRULY a sign from above. :)

I want to thank Ron Lucero and his family for letting me share this very personal story and hopefully it helps someone else. :)  RIP Sean.  

ARE WE STILL BEST FRIENDS WHEN WE CROSS OVER?

Are we still BEST FRIENDS when we cross to the other side?  This was a question I was asked this past weekend and I thought I would blog about it because I can only assume many people wonder about this after losing a best friend.  What will they do without them?  Right?  This is probably the number one concern of people that feel they have a  "soul connection" to another human being.  The one person or multi people that you feel know you the best and love you unconditionally.  The person that has been there for you through the good and the bad.  The person that made you laugh when all you wanted to do was cry.  The person that screamed the loudest when you succeeded and was your biggest fan.  Guess what?  Those feelings never change!

The Golden Girls 

One of my FAVORITE shows about Best Friends(Does that tell my age? LOL)

 

When a person dies this doesn't mean you never get to see or speak to them again.  Of course you still can!  And want to know something else.....they are ALWAYS there for you and even though you may not directly hear the voices you can feel their presence when you need it the most and sometimes when you least expect it.

Here's the deal.  Many people think that once you cross over and go to Heaven....that's it.  No more communicating with the living because they are in Heaven. Right? Wrong!  I am going to say this in a "Beckyism".  When people go to Heaven..... God doesn't say, "You are in Heaven now, you can not go back and help your friends and family in their time of need or sadness".  God is a loving God.  So he absolutely allows you to "visit" your friends and family to give them comfort or guide them in some way and then return "HOME".

So, the next time, you feel sad about losing your Best Friend, know that your Best Friend is not gone.  Think of it this way.... he/she is only in another room next to you.  You can't see them but you can hear them and feel that they are near.  So....talk away!!!!  Say what you need to just as your friend was right next to you (because they probably are) and take comfort in knowing they are not "gone" they have just stepped in the room "next door".

They still know when you do something silly and are laughing right along with you.  They know when you are doing something you love and they are right there supporting you.  And when you are sad and lonely, they have their arms wrapped around you gently as they always did.  The "soul connection" is NEVER lost are gone it's just how you see them now.  And one more thing.....every time you smile...…….so do they!!!!!!!!!  So don't forget to smile. :)

Losing someone close to you can be so overwhelming that it is hard to move forward.....so I want to share a little secret of mine that I hope will make you smile at least for a moment.  When you see a beautiful sunset or sunrise in all the beautiful pinks, purples, blues and yellows....that is JUST FOR YOU!!!!  No one else.....but YOU!!!!  It is a way that your loved ones can show you how they are feeling and how much love they are sending directly to YOU!!!!!!

 

Just for ME at one of my favorite

places from someone I miss dearly.

I couldn't help but smile.  Thank you.

 

 Because I am such a huge fan of The Golden Girls I wanted to share this video of Rue McClanahan (Blanche) talking about a sign that she received from her Best Friend Rill.  Don't forget to ask for a sign from your loved one they just may be waiting for you to ask.  :)

Sorry, A&E blocked me from sharing the video, but you can look it up on Youtube. :)

For those of you who need a sign!

 

DO OUR DEPARTED PETS GIVE US SIGNS THEY ARE STILL HERE?

Your heart is breaking.....and the tears come pouring down your face like a raging water fall.  You can't believe how much it hurts.  How real the pain is!  If you have ever lost a believed pet like I did this past weekend, you understand completely what I'm talking about.

If you are a pet owner, no matter what the pet....a dog, cat, bird or even snakes (sorry, snakes scare the crap out of me) you develop a love for them that is unconditional.  When you had a bad day.... you've wrecked the car, and have no idea what to do now....you were still greeted with a long, wet kiss on the face when you walked through the door and suddenly what you thought was the worst day ever...doesn't seem so bad after all.  Or your are sobbing at that sad, sad last episode of Friends,  and your "best friend" jumps in your lap and looks up at you with those big brown eyes and gives you THAT SWEET look of "it's going to ok" and you can't help but smile.  Yep.  That's the power they have on us.

So, what happens when we lose them?  We grieve and grieve.  You think about them everyday and can hardly look at a picture of them without breaking down.  Suddenly, strange things start to happen.  You think you see something run through the hall.  You see something jump on your bed that isn't there.  But here's the deal.  Sometimes when we see apparitions or ghosts of a living person, they are here for several reasons.  Maybe because of a tragic event, unfinished business and sometimes the person doesn't even know they are dead.  But pets are different.....
 

There is only one reason their spirit stays behind.  And that's YOU!  Our pets entire lives are built around us and being our companion.  Nothing makes a pet happier than pleasing their owner.  So, guess what?  When they die....that doesn't change. And let me tell, thanks goodness it doesn't!  

Me and Holly-My sweet girl that died in 2015

My boy Tanner.  RIP 

This post is dedicated to my beloved Tanner.  My best friend for 15 years.  RIP my sweet boy.  You take a piece of my heart with you. (Feb. 2004-Feb.2019)

So, if you think you have lost your "best friend" you haven't.  The shadow in hall or the dog toy that suddenly shows up out of know where....is just he/she paying you a visit.  They will give you signs in many different ways to let you know they are still right by your side.  

I want to tell you about my personal experience of a message Tanner gave me the day he died.  My poor boy, Tanner was 15 years old and even though his body was still going strong in spite of wobbly legs and being blind as a bat.  I always thought I would be able to make "that HARD decision" when the time came that he couldn't walk or move anymore BUT NEVER did I think I would have to make that decision because of his MENTAL state of mine.  He started pacing about a week ago.  He would scratch on the doors like he wanted out, but the doors where open.  He would stare into the corners of the room and seem to be so lost.  I wasn't sure what was happening so I took him to the vet who diagnosed him with Dog Dementia.  Who knew that was even a thing!!!!!  She said he just doesn't recognize where he is and it could be scary for him.

She gave me some medicine to try....but it didn't help at all.  After about a week of this, I couldn't take it anymore.  The thought that he was scared and didn't know where he was and being blind on top of that...was more than my heart could take.  I called the vet Friday morning and said, "today is the day".  I feed him his favorite food and gave him his favorite treats and in my mind tried to make it just like any other normal day.  Talking and playing with him first thing in the morning.  But then it was time.  I drove to vet and let my boy go to Heaven without me.  I had never had to make this kind of decision before.  And for anyone who has, even though you know it is the right thing to do, making this kind of decision is the worst feeling ever!!!!  

I walked to the car and began to sob uncontrollably with my hands over my face.  Had I done the right thing?  Did he have more time?  Should I have waited?  I needed help.  I needed a sign.  I let my hands drop and looked to the heavens and said, "Tanner, PLEASE I need a sign that I did the right thing.  I can't move on unless I know."  I slowly started the car and just by habit I turned on the radio.  And there was only ONE sentence that came on.  It was Carrie Underwood singing Amazing Grace...but I didn't hear the whole song only the last sentence...……………..I was blind, but now I see.  And not another thing was said.  Not  a commercial...…..not a DJ for a few seconds.  There was definitely a pause before the DJ began to talk.  And with that, I raised my head and said "Thank you" and drove home with a smile on my face.

Now, I wanted to include an article written by Stanley Coren Ph D., that I just read that has nothing to do with ghosts, or ghost spirits, but it does have to do with death and how when we have more than one pet that the other pet grieves as well.  That's right.  Your other pet.  The one that will stare into the kitchen looking at the dog bowl as if they are seeing something.  Maybe they are!  But lets not forget them in this process.  They grieve as well.  And you know, as much as your pet loved you...they loved your other pet to.  So, it is no surprise that they would come back to say "hi" to them as well.  The article below talks about your pets grief.  I thought it was really good and just wanted to include it with this blog.

Do Dogs Grieve Over the Loss of an Animal Companion?

A poignant study confirms what many owners suspected about pets and grieving.

Posted Nov 10, 2016

• It's well-known that dogs form strong emotional bonds with members of their human family, and often suffer grief when a loved one dies or moves away. However, one might wonder if dogs suffer an equal sense of loss when an animal companion who has lived with them in the same home suddenly disappears. 

I recently visited the home of some friends who have always had Boston Terriers as their companion dogs, usually in pairs, and always in the traditional black and white coloration. Quite often, they also had a cat as a pet, which was usually black-and-white to match the dogs. I always felt that it was Violet's work as an interior decorator that compelled her to have color-coordinated pets. On this visit, I found only one dog in the house. Lou explained that in the course of a few months they had lost one of their Boston Terriers (Lily) and shortly thereafter their cat (Rosie). Lou went on to say, "Now we only have Daisy. She took the loss of Lily and Rosie pretty hard, so we are looking to get a puppy companion for her as soon as possible."

I sat down on the sofa where Violet was sitting with Daisy. She said:

"Daisy was really upset when Lily passed. She kept checking the places where Lily usually took her naps, and when she didn't find her she would whine or whimper. She also got really clingy and demanded a lot of affection from me. Things got better after a month or so but then Rosie, our cat, died. I was surprised to find that Daisy showed the same kinds of behaviors when she couldn't find Rosie. Daisy kept looking for her in her usual spots, began whimpering again, and seemed to want to be close to me. She even stopped eating as enthusiastically as she usually did, as though she had lost part of her appetite."

Although Daisy's behavior at the loss of her canine companion was familiar to me, I was a bit surprised to learn she showed signs of grief at the loss of the cat as well. However, a recent study published in the journal Animals attempts to catalog the behaviors of dogs and cats when they suffer the loss of an animal housemate, and what the study found suggests that Daisy's behavior is not atypical. The study was conducted by a team of researchers headed by Jessica Walker of the New Zealand Companion Animal Counsel who collected data pertaining to 159 dogs and 152 cats. The data consisted of questionnaire responses from pet owners in New Zealand and Australia who owned multiple pets at the same time and had lost one within the past five years. The pet owners were asked to recall how the surviving pet responded to the disappearance of their companion.

One of the most common behaviors observed in dogs was to continually check the places where their lost housemate normally napped or rested. This behavior was found in 60 percent of the dogs (regardless of whether the lost companion was a dog or a cat) and 63 percent of the cats. Virtually the same proportion of surviving pets demanded more affection or became clingy and needy (61 percent of dogs and 62 percent of cats). Increases in whining and whimpering was less frequent, occurring 27 percent of the time in dogs. However, increased vocalizing was much more common in cats (43 percent). Roughly one in three dogs and cats reduced the amount of food they ate and the speed in which they ate it (35 percent in dogs and 31 percent in cats). Dogs were more likely to increase the amount of time that they spent sleeping (34 percent), which was less likely in cats (20 percent). The interesting thing is that these are all behaviors one might observe in a young human child experiencing grief and stress because of the loss of a human family member.

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Two aspects of this data surprised me. The first is that the cats seem to show grief-like behaviors to the same extent as the dogs. The second is that the dogs seem to show an equal amount of grief-related behavioral changes when the animal companion they lost was a cat rather than another dog.

One particularly interesting finding is that some animal behaviorists believe that the grief response in dogs can be reduced if the animal has a chance to view their deceased companion's body. The idea is that this provides closure: The dog will understand that their companion is no longer alive and is not coming back. In the study, 58 percent of the dogs and 42 percent of the cats got to view the body of their companion. The majority (73 percent) took the time to sniff and investigate their deceased housemate. However, no one reported behavioral differences between the animals that saw, and those that did not see, a dead companion's body. This seems to confirm that dogs act very much like human children younger than four, in that they do not have a concept of death as a final and irrevocable separation. Instead, they simply feel the loss of the presence, friendship, and companionship of their loved one; that loss causes their stress and grief-like behaviors.

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The conclusion to draw from this study is that dogs and cats suffer from stress when a companion animal from their household dies. Because of this, they show behaviors which can be interpreted as grief. Further, a dog is just as likely to grieve over the loss of the household cat as it is for the loss of a companion dog.

From me Becky:

Give them extra attention, toys and treats.  Remove or put away all the toys played with prior to the death of their companion.  Anything to do with the scent on it from the companion that died should be put aside and new things brought into the home to bring in new scents and memories.  

And may I offer this suggestion if you lost your only pet.  The love that you had for them, doesn't go away...but the love can also be used to give to another.  The thing you notice...is the loneliness.  The dog not at your feet, no barking, no toys to pick up, no one to greet you when you come home..... it all makes the silence deafening!  Consider getting another pet that needs a good, loving home. 

SIGNS THAT YOU MAY HAVE A DEMONIC ENTITY IN YOUR HOME

Now, there are lots of different reasons you could have bad things start to happen to you in your home or to people around you. Let's try and rule out what really may be cause for a greater concern.

Generally, before repression, oppression, and/or possession occurs, a demonic entity will infest a location.  There are specific signs of a demonic infestation or haunting, and many of them mimic an intelligent haunting of a spirit that was once in human form.  This is why it's sometimes so difficult, even for seasoned paranormal investigators, to distinguish between a ghost or spirit and a demon. 

First, there are CHANGES IN YOUR HOME.  This is one of the signs of a traditional or intelligent haunting that could also be a demonic haunting.  A person might have electrical or battery-operated appliances or gadget that begin to operate on their own.  For example, the lights may turn on and off, the TV blares it when was turned off, blender or maybe even the water comes on by itself.

All of the sudden, you may see a plate or a dish fly across the room with no explanation.  This can be extremely frightening!  You may also notice things aren't in the same place you left them.  Doors open and close on their own. 

You may experience all of these things.  If you are trying to figure out what is going on.....it is VERY important to start writing them down.  Journal all the activity.  It will help if you have to call in help.

Next, NOISES.  Strange sounds, like dragging, banging, raps or things falling and breaking but when you go to check their is nothing out of place.

You may even hear your name being called out, but BE CAREFUL here!!!  Demons will often mimic a deceased loved one in order to gain your trust and be more accepting of its presence.  But it is also, important to look at all the paranormal activity in the location as well as how the behavior of the living people in the home may have changed since the activity started.

SMELLS.  That's right! Smells.  Smells play a huge part in hauntings  and demonic infestation.  Although you may smells that you recognize like cigar or cigarette smoke, perfume, in a demonic presence, you will smell things you haven't smelt before and they are usually NOT pleasant.  A smell like sulfur or "something rotting" may be noticed.

CHANGES IN THE AIR.  You know....the air seems "heavy" or "oppressive".  It just seems harder to breath...like something heavy is on your chest.  If you start to feel this way, usually leaving the location should help.

EMOTIONAL CHANGES.  People who have come into direct contact with a demon called the experience changes in their moods and emotions.  Demons feed off negative energy, so the changes in someones moods that is normally a "happy" person could be something more than "just having a bad day".  But let me say....that when someone is in a "bad mood" I think it would be BEST NOT TO SAY....your just possessed by a demon!!!!!  LOL  Now, you could REALLY stir things up.

PHYSICAL COMPLICATIONS.  A person who resides in a home where a demonic entity is present could experience a wide variety of physical symptoms or illnesses that cannot be linked to a specific ailment.  But please always, consult your dr. if you are not feeling well.

Sometimes, people may experience bruises, headaches, vomiting and other types of physiological conditions for which the medical profession is not able to find  a logical explanation.  Sleep issues, such as nightmares maybe a way for the demon to wear a person down physically and emotionally to make their victim more vulnerable to their influence and make their prey easier to control.

PHYSICAL HARM.  Demonic entities can be very violent in nature and won't hesitate to attack.  Besides the scratching and bruising that can take place, victims of a demon have reported having their hair pulled, or having been pushed or pulled to the point that they have fallen and become injured, sometimes seriously, specially if a flight of stairs is involved.

CHANGES IN ANIMAL BEHAVIOR.  One of the main signs of a demonic entity is when your pets, especially a cat or a dog, start to display behavior that is erratic or uncharacteristic.  Now, don't confuse this with a "visit from a loved one" that your pets may see that you don't.  They may wage their tails or bark at an empty space, but with a demons presence it is more like growling, backing up, not wagging their tag, and even refusing to enter a particular room.

BECOMING WITHDRAWN.  Generally a demon will target one person in the home as their victim.  This person may start to withdraw and lose interest in activities.  They will become withdrawn from social events and even school or work.

Withdrawing from family and friends is exactly what the demon wants them to do.  That way, the demon can isolate their victim to gain control over them. 

If you suspect you or one of your family members are experiencing a demonic infestation, you should seek help from a paranormal professional or a member of clergy who has experience dealing with demonic entities.

I want to suggest a REALLY GREAT book that goes into more detail about encountering negative spirits, it's called Something Wicked-A Ghost Hunters Explores  Negative Spirits. By Debi Chestnut.
It is really easy to read and understand.

SIGNS FROM YOUR LOVED ONES-DO YOU NEED ONE???

Well, it's getting to be that time of year where people really start to miss their loved ones.  And especially those who have passed.  What is it about Christmas that makes us feel "extra" lonely or "extra" sad?  It is the thought of families coming together for food and fun and we feel like our families aren't complete because of the death of a loved one?

It's at times like these that we REALLY NEED a sign from our loved ones that "some how.....some way" they can still see us or connect with us.  So lets talk about that.

First, you need to know that your loved ones are always with you.  Let me say that again....YOUR LOVED ONES ARE ALWAYS WITH YOU!!!!  You are never alone and can talk to them anytime!
But yet, for some of us......we LONG for a sign...any little thing that would validate to us that they are still near.  Our family and friends actually communicate with us all the time, it's just we have to SEE it.  We may find something "out of place", hear a song, hear a voice or maybe even "feel" them touch us, but we chalk it up to coincidence.  Look, love is the energy that connects our physical world with the spirit world.  Signs are all around you.....just look.

There are many ways we can contact and communicate with spirits.  First of all, you have to ASK for a sign.  Ask your loved one to do something that you will know beyond a doubt that it is them sending you a message.  Look try this.  Sounds silly, but it is an easy way for our loved ones to send you a message.  Pick a song, a song that maybe was your favorite and ask that you hear it on a particular day...like....Please, I want to hear Love Me Tender by Elvis and I want to hear it tomorrow. And see what happens.  My money is on.....you'll hear the song!!!!

It can be something simple like a favorite picture on the wall and ask that your loved one tilt it for you.  Give it a couple days, and see what happens.  Also, ask to find a penny, dime, a quarter...some kind of coin.  Be sure to pay attention where you find it though, because more than likely it has a meaning.

So, a quick story about someone who found a "penny" and beyond a shadow of a doubt now knows it was from her departed husband.  So, out of the blue....I felt a very strong feeling to call a lady that I had done an investigation for and we had gotten evidence that her deceased husband was there.  I had not spoken with her in a few months but texted her and just said "hey, just had you on my mind".  She was super excited to hear from me, which made me feel good. Now, let me just be clear...I don't claim to be psychic but I think after talking to the dead all the time, I have developed a bit of psychic ability....which we all have by the way.  Anyway, she asked me "Becky do you feel anything today?  Anything to do with my husband?"  First, I was a little confused because I didn't, I really did not FEEL anything other than....I just knew I wanted to get in touch with her.  I am going to change the real names and use Beth as the lady and John as her husband just to make it easier.

I said, "Beth not really, why?"  My mouth dropped when she told me "today is mine and John's anniversary".  Man!!!  I did not know that!!!  That really made me feel CONNECTED to Beth like there was something ELSE (besides calling her) that I needed to do.  She ask me "Are you picking up on anything".  So I told her Beth I'm not psychic but I will try.  So, I got very quite and tried to concentrate  and ask her to send me a picture of John so I could see him and she did.  I know it sounds crazy but I just started hearing him.  He told me to tell her "the picture was for her".  I didn't know WHAT picture he was talking about BUT she did.  She said her granddaughter was doing a project and came across a picture of John that Beth had not seen before.  But he was very happy in the picture which made her feel good and smile.

Ok...here's where it gets good!!! I kept hearing "TELL HER ABOUT THE PENNY!!!!  YOU HAVE TO MENTION THE PENNY!!!!!   And in my head I am thinking...penny????  What kind of message is that???  Don't you want to tell her you love and miss her????  LOUD AND CLEAR.....I heard...almost in a bossy way......THE PENNY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Ok.....Ok....Ok... I finally thought.  So in my most sympathetic voice....because Beth obviously was very sad on this her anniversary date.  I said "Beth, I am sorry.....but I keep hearing Ask her about the penny????"  "I don't know what that means but maybe you will."  It was COMPLETE SILENCE on the other end of the line.  Now, I'm thinking....what happened.....why is Beth not talking.  Finally, I heard her sobbing!!!!  I said "Beth are you ok?"  And she said in an ever so softly voice....I know EXACTLY what that means.....and it makes me SO HAPPY and it is exactly what I needed to know that John was with me".

Then she went on to say that she had moved from her and John's home into another house.  She had packed up the kitchen stuff herself and boxed them up.  A couple of weeks ago, when she was unpacking....she opened a box that had some large bowls in it.  And in the center of one of the bowls was a penny.  She said she had NO IDEA where it came from or how it got in the box.  She had packed it herself and there was no penny in it.

Anyway, it was a great day for the both of us.....I was able to help Beth and she was so grateful with her sign.

Ok....anyway, back to other signs.  Ask that you find a feather, ask that you see a rainbow, ask your loved one to visit you in your dreams.....just something that you could connect with.  Here's the deal.  First you have to ASK...then you have to HAVE FAITH, BE PATIENT, NOTICE THE SIGNS and most of all.....be sure to THANK them for the sign or communication.

Look....I know sometimes we can't help but be sad and lonely over the loss of a loved one....and that's what is suppose to happen during the grieving process and sometimes long after.  But if your struggling with RECEIVING a sign....why not GIVE a sign.  That's right...it is the season for GIVING AND RECEIVING right?  So, put up a special ornament in your love ones name, make them their favorite dish, plant a tree or maybe.......maybe.........just SMILE and say I love You out loud.  I think you will be surprised how good it will make you feel to remember someone and GIVE THEM a sign.

And by the way, many of us may also deeply, grieve for our pets.  Guess what???  They know how to give signs to.  Ask them to lay on the bed or couch with you, move their favorite toy or maybe run in front of you (of course, don't trip on them. LOL) of course, you may see them in shadow form.

And listen, you are NEVER alone...give me shout.....I'll be glad to give you a SIGN that someone is right there with you. :)

PENNIES FROM HEAVEN

So many people think that once you die that the love you had for someone is lost...........quite the contrary....love NEVER dies.......it just goes from the mind to heart....to HEART to HEART.  What does that mean?  Well, it's kinda like smelling a rose with your eyes closed.  First you see it......then you close your eyes....... and you can't SEE it anymore but you can still SMELL it therefore you know it is STILL THERE!  It's kinda the same way when someone we love dies.  We are sooooo used to seeing them and having them in our lives that once their gone....we fear the love is lost.  But here's the deal....when someone dies they take the love they had for you with them, ONLY now....you can't see them but hopefully you can FEEL them or maybe even receive signs from them.

When our love ones leave us, they help us through life in so many ways that we may not immediately recognize it.  That is because they are here to protect and guide us not to lead and direct.  Two things you need to remember when our loved ones are giving us "signs" from above letting us know that they are still here.  One-BELIEVE IN THEM and two-NOTICE THEM!!! 

Not all signs are small, and not all are monumental.  Each one of is there for a specific purpose, be it to comfort you, help you finalize a decision, or confirm something you already knew but just weren't sure about.  Remember......our job is NOT to SEARCH for signs.....but to notice them!!!

Some of the ways that they may try and give us signs are.....finding feathers, a favorite song that you hadn't heard in forever, "pennies from Heaven", hearing their voices, or finding something that has been lost for a long time.  And let's not forget about visits in our dreams.

FEATHERS- Feathers are symbols of faith, therefore our loved ones make sure that you understand the significance of their offering and believe that it's a real message from above. 

MUSIC-Music or a favorite song that has meaning to you and your loved one is one of the ways that spirits communicate that "something special" is still here and ONLY YOU would recognize the it.  Music bypasses defenses and opens the heart, so it's a favorite choice of sign from above.



PENNIES FROM HEAVEN-The Universe works in mysterious ways, and our loved ones are no exception.  The fact is.....we ALL love gifts!  So our departed loved ones can't pick up the phone and order  flowers for us so "pennies from Heaven" can sometimes be the way they make you feel supported or even may make you feel better on a emotional, spiritually and physical level when you find a penny.  I'm going to go out on a limb and say I bet every time you find a penny you SMILE!  What a great gift that is!  So next time you find a penny...just remember that it might have been purposely placed in your path.

VOICES-  This one is simple.... Sometimes spirits know that the only thing you need is to HEAR from them and I do mean HEAR from them.  This just reassures you that they are still watching over you and have never TRULY left you.

 

FOUND ITEM-Our love ones never forget SPECIAL things or things that meant something to the both of you.  They know when you need MORE than just a song or just a penny.........so that wedding band that your husband lost when he was working on the car may SUDDENLY show up in the most unlikely place!!!! This is no accident.....THIS is his way of saying I love you and always will. 

 

 

DREAMS-Dreams are the place that spirits can communicate with us directly.  This is the time when you are free of stress and your mind is at it's most relaxed therefore, it is the time when your spirits can give you a message without all the distractions that may prevent you from noticing other signs they may be trying to give you.

 

The bottom line is.....our loved ones DO give us signs that they still love us and know that WE still love them.... BUT we have to be willing to see them and more important recognize them!  Signs come in many different forms and situations.  They are deeply personal, and what's significant to you many not make sense in another person's life.  I know it's hard to believe......but our loved ones will be with us every step of the way until we met again, but until that time......never doubt that the SIGN you THINK you are getting....is TRULY meant to be.